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Dear Tulsa Bae,
Am I in love with the lady who works at the dry cleaner, or do I just see her every week? She is cute and very friendly to me, but I know a lot less about her and our compatibility than I would someone with a dating app profile, for example. I'm not even sure she's single. Is it appropriate to ask out a service worker? How can I gauge her interest without overstepping a boundary?
Yours,
Rip Van Wrinkle
Dear Rip Van Wrinkle,
It sounds like you’re a self-reflective and considerate person! You have a crush (I love a crush), but are also aware of the elements here muddying the waters: the fact that she’s in a service position, and that you don’t know her too well, or really at all.